Pregnancy loss can be an incredibly difficult and emotional experience. Whether your pregnancy was newly discovered or long awaited, the grief that comes with losing what you had begun to hope for can feel incredibly heavy. You may be experiencing a range of emotions — sadness, shock, anger, confusion, or even numbness — and all of these feelings are valid.

This section is here to provide information, guidance, and support during a time that can feel uncertain and deeply personal.

Pregnancy Loss

Early pregnancy loss (EPL), sometimes called miscarriage, refers to the loss of a pregnancy within the first 13 weeks. It is more common than many people realize — approximately 1 in 5 pregnancies end in loss, most often during the first trimester.

If you are experiencing an early pregnancy loss, it is important to hear this clearly: nothing you did caused this. It is not your fault. While EPL is common, that does not lessen the grief, shock, or pain you may be feeling. Every person’s physical and emotional response to loss is unique.

Bleeding: Usually the first sign is bleeding from the vagina. It may be light or heavy, constant or on and off.

It is important to note not all pain or bleeding ends with a pregnancy loss.

Conversely, some people don’t have any symptoms at all when they experience a loss.

Pain/cramping: Usually in the lower belly or lower back.

Passing tissue: dark red blood clots or thick stringy material may pass from the vagina.

If you are experiencing vaginal bleeding or pain, you should seek medical attention. You should contact your family physician, midwife, or obstetrician/gynecologist.

If none of these options are available to you within one to three days, you should go to
your local emergency department.

However, you should go to the emergency department immediately if you:

  • Suddenly have severe pain in your abdomen that is not going away or is not lessened with acetaminophen (Tylenol)
  • Suddenly feel faint or like you are passing out
  • Have very heavy bleeding (soaking more than three pads in three hours)
  • Have chills or a fever higher than 38°C (100.4°F)
  • Pass any material that looks like tissue. Put the tissue in a clean container and bring it with you to the Emergency Department

Complete Miscarriage

A complete miscarriage means that all pregnancy tissue has passed from the uterus. After diagnosis, bleeding may continue for several weeks and can sometimes be heavy, with cramping and blood clots that may look dark and jelly-like — this can be normal, even if it feels concerning. However, seek immediate medical care if you are soaking more than three pads in three hours, have severe pain not relieved by Tylenol, or feel faint or like you might pass out.

Incomplete Miscarriage

An incomplete miscarriage occurs when some pregnancy tissue has passed, but some remains in the uterus. Vaginal bleeding and cramping may have already begun in this situation.

Missed Miscarriage 

A missed miscarriage occurs when a pregnancy stops developing without symptoms such as bleeding to indicate a loss. Despite the term “missed,” it’s important to know that you did nothing wrong and did not overlook anything.

If you are diagnosed with an incomplete or missed miscarriage, this confirms an early pregnancy loss. Your doctor will discuss the available management options with you.

Expectant Management 

Watchful waiting (expectant management) is an approach to early pregnancy loss where no medical treatment is used. Instead, the goal is for the pregnancy to pass naturally without medication or surgery. Some people choose this option if bleeding has already started, while others choose it after a confirmed loss but before bleeding begins. The process can take days to weeks, and in some cases, medication or surgery may still be needed if it is not successful.

Medical Management 

Medical management of miscarriage uses medications to help the pregnancy pass more quickly and predictably. Options include misoprostol alone or mifepristone followed by misoprostol (Mifegymiso). Misoprostol helps dilate the cervix and expel pregnancy tissue, while pre-treatment with mifepristone can increase the chance of complete expulsion.

Medications may be taken orally or vaginally, and cause cramping and bleeding, which can start within hours or take up to 48 hours, sometimes continuing for up to 2 weeks. Side effects can include nausea, diarrhea, chills, and severe cramping. Pain can be managed with acetaminophen, NSAIDs, or sometimes prescribed narcotics.

Patients receive guidance on expected bleeding, pain management, and when to seek help. In some cases, medical management may not fully work, requiring additional medication or surgery.

Surgical Management 

Surgical management of miscarriage involves procedures like vacuum uterine aspiration or D&C to remove pregnancy tissue from the uterus. After surgery, bleeding can continue for several weeks and may be heavy, sometimes with clots and intermittent pain or cramps. While clots can look alarming, bleeding is only concerning if Red Flags occur, in which case emergency care should be sought. Follow-up with a family doctor, obstetric provider, or early pregnancy clinic is recommended 1–2 weeks after the miscarriage to determine if further tests or ultrasounds are needed.

Red Flags:

  • Suddenly have severe pain in your abdomen that is not going away or is not lessened with acetaminophen (Tylenol)
  • Suddenly feel faint or like you are passing out
  • Have very heavy bleeding (soaking more than three pads in three hours)
  • Have chills or a fever higher than 38°C (100.4°F)

The CuddleCot is a unique temperature-controlled cooling system that slows natural changes, and allows parents to hold, cuddle, and spend meaningful time with their baby after death.

It is available to all of our patients experiencing a stillbirth loss. This option will be presented to you by your care team and the choice to use this is optional. 

There are several things you can do to ease breast discomfort you may experience and stop milk production when you are diagnosed with the loss of a pregnancy.

The main thing that impacts milk production is how fully and how often the breast tissue is emptied. When milk is removed from the chest/breast, it sends signals to your brain to produce more.

The goal is to have most of the milk stay in the breast tissue so your body knows to stop making more, without causing engorgement and/or mastitis. Removing small amounts (drops or a teaspoon worth) is okay. Do not drink less fluids – this will not slow down milk production, and can make you dehydrated.

Some tips to help with any discomfort are to:

  • Gently express tiny amounts of milk
  • Apply cold compresses for 15 minutes at a time – you can repeat this every hour
  • Avoid the use of heat on your breast tissue
  • Take over the counter pain medication such as acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Advil) as recommended on the label
  • Wear comfortable bras and tops that are not too tight. Tight clothing can cause problems such as blocked ducts which can lead to mastitis.

Stopping milk production can take a few days to a few weeks. If you have any concerns or are worried you may have an infection, please contact your healthcare provider (OB, midwife or family doctor).

You may also reach out to Algoma Public Health for guidance and support from a lactation nurse. 

Can I Get Pregnant Again?

Early pregnancy loss is usually a single, isolated event. Most people go on to have healthy, successful pregnancies. Experiencing one miscarriage does not increase the likelihood of having another. However, if someone experiences two or three miscarriages, a doctor may recommend testing to explore possible underlying causes.

After a miscarriage, it typically takes about four to six weeks for your period to return. If you wish to become pregnant again, you can begin trying once your period has resumed. Waiting for your first period helps confirm that the miscarriage has fully completed.

If you don’t want to get pregnant, talk to your doctor about a birth control method that’s right for you.

Your Mental Health Matters

It’s important to take time to check in with yourself and acknowledge your feelings—your mental health truly matters. Below, you’ll find a list of supportive resources available to you when you’re ready to reach out.

If you find yourself in a state of crisis, please seek immediate support.

Support and Resources

Experiencing a pregnancy loss can be an emotionally challenging and deeply personal experience, not just for you but also for your loved ones. Everyone processes loss differently, so your feelings and timeline may not match those of friends or family. It’s normal to experience sadness, grief, or even guilt, and it’s important to give yourself permission to feel and heal at your own pace.

If you find that your emotions are overwhelming, persistent, or affecting your daily life, reaching out to a doctor, counselor, or support group can provide guidance, comfort, and a safe space to share what you’re going through.

Local

IRIS Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Group

Meetings are the last Wednesday of each month. 

For more information or to register for the group call (705) 945-5058 ext. 2414

Regional

PAIL (Pregnancy and Infant Loss) Network – Sunnybrook

PAIL has free group and individual peer support services for families across Ontario.

pailnetwork.ca

(416) 480-5330 or 1-844-772-9388

PregnancyED

This website was created by emergency department doctors and nurses, obstetricians/gynaecologists, family physicians, and patients who have experienced pregnancy loss to help answer questions about first trimester pregnancy loss.

pregnancyED.com

October 15 

Every year, across Canada, October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. This site provides information on events, as well as resources for parents

october15.ca 

Bereaved Families of Ontario

Provides peer-led grief support services with one-to-one meetings, support groups, or events in Ontario.

bfotoronto.ca

(416) 440-0290 or 1-800-236-6364

Ontario Health 

Health Quality Ontario (now Ontario Health) has created excellent resources for patients and providers for Early Pregnancy Loss. 

hqontario.ca